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| Pothole | Jun 29 2011, 10:21:41 PM Post #41 |
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| West_Texan | Aug 18 2011, 04:58:28 PM Post #42 |
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I'm on the fence as well, Australia has it's pros and cons as did the US but I'm content in the fact that I have created my own USA inside my own home and in my locker at work. My primary regret is that my Mama passed away since I have been here and I felt like my world had come to fruition as she and I are the only ones left of our family so, I feel that I am truely miplaced. I observe the relationship that my wife has with her Mom & Dad but I alwys stay an armslength away, I just can't seem to warm to them as parental figures. My Mom passed away on New Years Eve and I suppose that I just haven't had the time to adjust, I dream about her almost every night as we had taken care of eachother for many years and I feel guilty for having come here so far away at a time when she aparently needed me the most but, I didn't know that she was ill, she kept it from me because she knew that I would be sick with worry. I had to make an unspeakable decision when she was in hospice and I am having an awful time dealing with it. I operate on people at Monash University Medical Center and have always had a stiff upper lip and a good grasp on dealing with the horrors and misfortunes that are presented to me on a daily basis but now, I find myself fighting back my tears on most days and I feel broken. There is an American nurse (Greenbay, WI) that I see when I escourt my patients to the recovery room after surgery and one word from her usually enlightens me but, she isn't there everyday and is experiencing difficulties of her own as her brother has been given 3-6 months survival time. So, I suppose one could say that I am confused and out of character but for my wife's sake, I will remain here and give it the good ole American try. I didn't mean to write a book on here but there is nobody else to tell this to as my wife worries and doesn't know what to say to help me deal with this anomolly. |
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| AmbroseChick | Aug 19 2011, 10:41:58 PM Post #43 |
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I don't have anything profound to say except I'm so sorry for your loss - I felt the same way after my father died - for different reasons - but the emotions are similar. Hugs to you! |
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| i<3sydney | Aug 20 2011, 09:38:13 AM Post #44 |
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west texan i am so very sorry for your loss i can truely identify with the feelings you have gone through as my mom recently passed away too (she had MS) and it has been a real struggle to overcome so many emotions/guilt/saddness/confusion etc.,. being here away from my family and having made the choice to live here and miss time i could have spent with her. i too work in health care and i struggle at work to keep my composure sometimes. or anyway.. when things are tough for me personally and whatnot/having a bad day, my thoughts ultimately lead to my mom -- really want to break out of that cycle. i'm just lucky i have good support here with my husband and mother in law. they are both so wonderful. it's easy to keep feelings inside, but you should talk it out. here is a good start and you probably feel better to get it out. confide in your wife (even though you say she worries.. she probably wants you help and support you!) and hopefully your inlaws will grow closer too over time. the nurse from gb sounds lovely and good you have someone at work to cheer you up even for a moment.. that can help wonders (i'm from green bay too!) also, it might be worth talking to someone else about it. i have myself and it does help. sometimes you just need someone to listen and to release too. it just really takes time. if you ever need to chat, shoot me a pm. i'm not here daily, but i always reply. do i regret moving here... not at all. i try not to compare anymore because this is my home now and i want embrace it and to be truely happy. and i really do love australia! i am working everyday on not feeling guilty about moving away from my family, especially with my mom being ill.. and wanting to be there for my father and other responsibilities i felt were mine..but i know she always wanted the best for me and understands my choices. i don't like to have regrets, there is no point. once you make a choice, you cannot change the past. best to accept it, learn from it, and use it to improve and be happy. the only thing is sometimes i'm bothered (for lack of a better term) and have moments of weakness when i think of the what if's or i should have done this.. scenarios. that is just bad and i quickly catch myself. and i have a love/hate relationship with the nostalgic feelings i get.. the ones where you can relive beautiful memories of certain atmospheres and lifestyle differences (the spirit of christmas, the feeling of an early summer night, smells, foods, events..just different ways of live i'll not have again or my own family will miss experiencing) i smile in these moments and long to go back to have more of them.. but also i don't want to focus too much because my life is here. and it takes away from feelings and memories i can attribute to here. it's a very hard position we are in! but you can do it the hard way, or make life a bit easier for yourself. but yes, i do have a whinge now and then about some things. i'm only human 
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| TerritorianTori | Aug 20 2011, 03:53:48 PM Post #45 |
It couldn't happen here
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All I can say is massive  to both of you!
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| Garrett | Aug 20 2011, 09:30:40 PM Post #46 |
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I'm really sorry, man. It's not the same I know, but I lost my grandmother back in March and since I was here, I couldn't be at the funeral. My family understood but I still felt real bad about that. She was my last living grandparent. |
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